This week, I felt like being anywhere but here. Upon reflection, I remember feeling this way in other places, even in the states. Remembering this relieved some of the slummed-out feelings I was having and reminded me that its very much a part of being human. Its how we remember we're finite and small in quite a large world, regardless of where we're from or who we are. Today's blog is about a trip to the restaurant and the bazaar. Its amazing to me that a simple trip to town can turn out to be such an overwhelmingly different experience than it would be in the states.
Restaurants and the Bazaar
On Thursday, I left around noon to have lunch with a few friends and find a tailor in the bazaar. It snowed the night before, so the streets turned into a sludgy, muddy mess. It was clear and cold, and the wind cut through all three layers of clothing I was wearing. As I sloshed down the street, I passed the small tea (shai) house on the corner. They smiled and greeted me with the four to five ways you say, "how are you?" and insisted that I come have shai on the way out. This was quite a change from the way it has been.
For the first month, I would wave or smile as we drove by, only to receive deep stares from very serious faces. A little under a week ago, I was walking by and decided to have some tea and try for a chat. I greeted them, and they hesitantly returned the same. I sat on the carpeted wooden platform, three or so feet from the ground under a canvas tent. They passed me shai and offered some kabob. Though my Dari is quite elementary, they could tell I was trying, and it seemed to make all the difference in the world. It intrigued them that a white guy from America, not in the military, is having tea and at least trying to communicate in their own language. So, now they wave, smile, and insist on my stopping in every time I pass by. This is my goal everywhere I go here: to get people to smile back, wave, and give a greeting, which can be intimidating due to the hard stares and serious faces, but seeing these guys on the corner reminds me that its worth it to keep trying and pressing on.
I met my other friends down the road and we walked to the restaurant. They had the grills cranking and everything smelled delicious. As we walked in, it seemed as if the whole place stopped for just a moment to give us a good look over. This place was a mix between a traditional style restaurant, with platforms lining the walls and places for people to sit, and a modern or Western style restaurant with tables and chairs. I think this was the first time I've eaten at a table in over a month. Lunch was excellent, though limited to the usual diet-- homemade yogurt, lamb shanks, and chicken kabob with fresh bread. Oh, how I long for fresh fruits and veggies!
From here, we went to the plumbing area of the bazaar to find a toilet seat for one of the guys. I waited outside, talked to a few curious guys on the street, and enjoyed freezing in the wind. We hiked on toward the main bazaar, toilet seat in hand, and stopped at two carpet stores. The first was a friend of a friend, and the other is a friend I made a few weeks back. We found a chess set made of lapiz and onyx stone. It was quite unique, but I wouldn't pay $120 US for it. At my friend's shop, I made my favorite purchase in Afghanistan up to this point, a pair of gorgeous hand-made twin carpets.
It took us about three hours up to this point, and with all the tea and talking at each stop, I had to find a bathroom, which can be quite tricky in this country. Most guys find a wall, or a ditch, or wherever to do their business but for a white guy, it tends to draw more attention than I'm comfortable with. So, as we were about to head on from the carpet shop area, I asked a man where I might find a toilet. He pointed me down a narrow alley and told me to go upstairs and turn right. The smell was quite rancid, the trash overflowing, and I decided not to let my mind wander too far with what all the stains were from. Nonetheless, it was sufficient to do the job.
We traveled on, crossing busy intersections, weaving between three-wheeled carts, motorcycles, donkeys, and taxis to arrive at the lailomi bazaar (a sort of walking market; mainly second-hand goods). We went to my friend Mafuz's tailor, which was in a small box, about 2 meters x 3 meters x 3 meters. As he was getting measured for his PuranTamBone (Afghani style pants and shirt; similar to Shalwar Qamiz found in Pakistan or India), I took off to another area of the bazaar to find some cloth for my own PuranTamBone. After visiting several stores with an Afghan guy, I realized I was quite close to paying a foreigners "tax" because my "buddy" was getting tipped to bring me to specific shops. So, I decided to go to a different shop of my own choosing. I'm quite proud that I was able to get the cloth I wanted for a third the price he had found for me. I made the purchase, 4 meters of cloth for a full PuranTamBone, for approximately $8 US and went back to the tailor. The tailor measured me up and said to return on Tuesday. Let's hope it turns out well!